Resilience is not a feeling, it’s an action. Teens are hardwired for struggle. Remember how babies learn how to walk? None of them give up and say, “I’ve been at this for so long and I keep falling, I am just going to sit down;” the people around them, keep encouraging them to get up. As they fall again and again, we don’t punish them because we know they will finally get it. Unfortunately, as teens, they are functioning in an environment where they have to be good at everything, everyday; Math, Science, English, Social Studies, Physical Education, options they didn’t want to be in, chores, relationships at home, while managing to not get grounded or lose their screen time. If we were to reflect on our own lives, we would not work somewhere doing something we are not good at, neither do we have someone taking our phones away from us for a day when we make a mistake, and somehow, we still struggle and have bad days! Building resilience is a holistic process of gaining the tools that will teach teens how to think, rather than what to think; communicating; understanding their experiences; compassion and empathy; thinking outside of the box; reflection, and negotiating with teens about what support means and looks like to them.